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When God Shows Up Through Family Today has been one of those days that reminds me how faithful God is and how often He shows up through the people closest to us. As I reflect on the day, I can clearly see how God worked through my family. He worked through Bella Love today. He worked through Barbi today. He worked through godly men and families who are devoted and obedient to His call. In this season of life, God continues to show up in ways I could never plan or predict, and

Christmas Day Reflection The Greatest Gift Is Peace On this Christmas Day my reflection is simple and clear. In this season of gift giving the greatest gift is Jesus. He is the one who calms the storms, quiets the uncertainty, and invites us into peace. His birth brought love, freedom, and joy into the world, and each of us is given the choice of how we will live in response to that gift. We can lean into Him, into the peace and love He offers, or we can choose to play God. W

Christmas Eve: The Pause Before the Miracle As this Christmas Eve comes to a close, I sit with the quiet truth of what today has really been about. Not the noise, not the rush, not even the traditions, but the invitation to slow down and remember why this night matters. Christmas Eve is the pause before the miracle. It is the stillness before the light breaks through. It is a reminder that God did not come in power or spectacle, but in humility, closeness, and love. A servant

This morning, as I reflect, I find myself sitting with a simple but grounding question. Where am I being asked to stay present instead of searching for clarity? On my morning walk, the sun was already up, but hidden behind thick clouds. The light was there, even if I couldn’t see it directly. Birds were moving from tree to tree. Squirrels darted across the path. The air felt cool and alive. And it hit me that sometimes, in our search for the sun, we miss the nature already su

As I reflect, I think about what it truly means to be a family. Being a family means you will love and be loved for the rest of your life, no matter what. Not just in the good moments, but through arguments, misunderstandings, and the long nights when things feel heavy or unclear. Family is the place where you don’t have to earn your belonging. It’s already there. Even when emotions run high. Even when words fall short. Even when you don’t fully understand each other yet. Whe

Direction Is Set in the Small Steps This morning, I found myself reflecting on direction and the weight of small steps. I was listening to a podcast that explained how, over a long distance, even being off by a tenth of a percent in direction guarantees you will miss the destination. That truth settled deeply with me, because it applies far beyond travel or goals. It applies to parenting. It applies to legacy. It applies to the quiet, daily decisions that shape where our chil

This Is the Day As I reflect on this morning, I am standing in gratitude. For the small things. For the big things. For simply getting up today. For the small things like my dogs. For the big things like my family. I find myself returning to a verse I love deeply “This is the day the Lord has made. I will rejoice and be glad in it.” There is so much to rejoice about if we choose to see it. There is also another option. We can focus on what is missing. We can replay what has b

As I reflect today, I keep coming back to the difference between beliefs and ideas, and between knowledge and perception. A belief feels foundational. It is rooted. It shapes identity. Beliefs are the framework that holds what we know about ourselves and the world. Ideas, on the other hand, feel more fluid. They ebb and flow. They adjust with experience, emotion, and perspective. Ideas live more in perception. Beliefs live in knowledge. That distinction matters, especially wh

Kingdom X and the Four Daily Disciplines As I reflect back on last evening, I am deeply grateful for the community I get to walk with each week in Kingdom Excellence, or Kingdom X. It is a virtual space made up mostly of men, with a few women, all committed to anchoring our lives in identity, discipline, and purpose rooted in Jesus Christ and the Kingdom of Heaven. What stood out most to me is the reminder that identity itself is a discipline. It is not something we discover

Today’s reflection comes from a thought shared by someone I deeply admire and learn from. They were talking about knots in a rope. When you look at a knot, you don’t just yank on it and hope it comes loose. You study it. You turn it. You look at it from different angles. You ask yourself where it tightened, how it tightened, and what the best way is to loosen it without creating more tension. He said our problems are like that. Some knots show up in performance, sports, or wo

The Power of Really Good Questions This morning I listened to a podcast from Increase Your Impact with Justin Sua, and it stuck with me in the best way. Justin said something simple but powerful. He is a sucker for really good questions. That is what he does as a process coach. He asks questions. He loves questions. That resonated deeply with me because I love questions too. I love asking questions to Barbi. I love asking questions to Bella Love. I love asking questions to fr

How I’m Learning to Measure What Matters Most In this season of uncertainty, I keep coming back to a simple but heavy question. What am I actually trying to accomplish right now? At the core, it’s this. I want to be there for my family. I want to be present for Barbi. I want to be steady for Bella Love. But wanting that isn’t enough. Intention without awareness doesn’t create change. If I want to become a better husband, a better dad, and a better version of myself, I have to

A Different Kind of Sabbath Reflection Tonight feels different. Normally my reflections come early in the morning, before the world wakes up. But today, this Sunday, I waited until the evening. I wanted to look back over the full day, from the first moments of waking up to the quiet settling of night, and reflect on what the Sabbath really gave us. The day began early with God’s Word. Bible open. Journal out. A slow intentional start as I prepared my heart for church. Barbi w

Planting the Seed and Trusting the Harvest Yesterday, something unexpected happened. An elite level coach reached out to me and asked for direction. Not casually. Not out of politeness. But sincerely. He told me that he believed I was a good coach. That I was effective. That there were adults and young people who could benefit from the way I see development, discipline, identity, and growth. Then he said something that stayed with me. “You have to put it out there. Plant the

I had someone reach out to me recently asking about my daily routine. He shared that he wanted a better plan and was looking for ideas from people he trusted. That message stuck with me because routines matter. Not because they make us rigid, but because they make us intentional. At the core of my daily routine is journaling. I start my morning by writing the date and the day, then I choose three priorities for the day. Just three. I have learned that when I try to carry more

Today I was listening to The Daily Drive and the message was about the flashlight. He said when you walk into a dark room you cannot see anything. You do not know what is around you. But the moment you turn on the flashlight everything becomes clear. You become aware. He compared that flashlight to pressure. When you are competent in an area the pressure will reveal your strengths. It will show you what you can do. But when you are not competent yet the pressure shines a ligh

Winning at Home Through Autonomy and Support Today I am reflecting on what it means to win at home. As a parent, I want a lot for my daughter, for Bella Love. But wanting the goal more than she does is one of the quickest ways to create tension in the house. I heard a performance advisor, Austin Merrill, talk about this, and it hit me hard. There is a huge difference between seeing potential in your child and pushing potential onto your child. Pushing creates friction. Seeing

Raising My Standards and Raising My Game Today I reflect on what it really means to raise my standards and raise my game. High performance is never an accident. It is a blueprint. Whether I am coaching an athlete, building a program, growing as a parent, or strengthening my family with Barbi and Bella Love, the truth is the same. My habits shape my identity. My routines shape my direction. My mindset shapes my performance. Habits are tools. Routines are tools. Mindset is a to

Your First Mental Coach Lives at Home This morning I reflect upon a book that reminded me of something I often forget in the rush of life. The book was called Parenting Champions, and its core message hit me straight in the heart. It teaches that the first mental coach any kid ever has is their parent. Before any tournament, before any mentor, before any coach on the field or court or lane, it is the parent who shapes the foundation of a child’s mindset. And that truth made m

Today as I reflect back on my morning, I think about what it means to be persistent. Persistent in going to church. Persistent in my faith. Persistent in prayer. And even when I stay persistent in prayer and the answers seem delayed, I am learning to keep going anyway. Even when I love others and that love is not returned the way I hoped, I am reminded that persistence is an act of faith. Even when life does not make sense and Barbi may feel confused or Bella Love may feel un