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Designing the Unavoidable Looking back on today, it was one of those quietly powerful days. The kind of day where learning doesn’t come from a big moment, but from noticing what’s been right in front of you the whole time. We all have things we see every day. Some people call them reminders. Some call them signs of success. Others call them billboards or symbols. I’ve come to believe the best systems are the ones you don’t have to remember. The ones you literally trip over. R

Small Tasks, Big Peace Tonight I found myself reflecting on something simple, but powerful. Tasks. It’s something I’ve talked through with Bella, and something Barbi has reminded me of over the years. Write a small to do list. Not an overwhelming one. Just a few things that actually matter. Decide what you want to get done, then move through the day with awareness. Pay attention to the situations around you, the circumstances that show up, and the moments where action is need

Today, I was listening to a podcast that landed right where I’m living. The conversation was about systems. How systems can be helpful, how they can create structure, clarity, and consistency. But then the host said something that stopped me in my tracks. He talked about working with someone who said, “I’m overwhelmed. I’m too overwhelmed to even build a system.” And I felt that. Because sometimes that’s real. Sometimes life is heavy. Sometimes I’m overwhelmed. Sometimes Barb

A Morning Practice of Gratitude This morning, I settled into gratitude. I’m thankful for the simple gift of waking up. For a healthy body. For the quiet opportunity to read, to study, and to grow closer to Jesus. These mornings ground me in my identity and remind me who I am before the world starts asking me to be anything else. As I reflected, my thoughts naturally turned toward Barbi and Bella Love. I thought about the challenges they face and the deep privilege I have to w

Defining Culture at Home and Beyond Today my reflection is centered on culture. For our family, especially as we raise Bella, culture is not something accidental. It is something we choose. Culture is built on purpose, mission, and direction. And the direction we move and the time we have here on earth are shaped by the core values we choose to live by. Those values guide us everywhere. In our home. On the bowling lanes. In conversations. In decisions. In how we handle succes

Learning When to Pause As I reflect on today, I find myself thinking about intention. We often set out wanting to move in a certain direction, to have a meaningful conversation, to connect, to help. But conversations, like life, ebb and flow. They have their own rhythm. And sometimes the very act of trying to control the moment can create unnecessary tension or pain. I am learning that just because I want to have a conversation does not mean it is the right time to have it. T

Tonight, I found myself reflecting on why I created the Parent Athlete Relationship Reset program in the first place. It did not begin as a course or a program. It began with parents. Parents who were looking for answers in the same way I was and still am. Parents who love their child deeply and feel the tension that can quietly replace connection when performance enters the picture. I know that tension well. Even now, I still walk through it with Bella. The difference is tha

The Gift of Support Beyond Our Family Tonight, during my reflection, I find myself thinking about the importance of support. Not just support within our family, but the kind of support that exists outside of it. Barbi and I hold Bella up every day. That is our job as parents. We support her. We encourage her. We communicate with her. We work to create a safe space where she can be fully herself. That foundation matters. It always will. And yet, there is a different kind of te

Becoming a Craftsman of Tension As I reflect on the day this evening, I’m reminded of something subtle but powerful. Heaviness and tension are normal. They are always present. The difference is not whether tension exists. It’s how we choose to operate through it. Some people wallow in tension. Some people fight it. Others learn how to let it move through them. Today, I noticed how fluid this is within families. How parents respond to children. How husbands respond to wives. H

Today I find myself reflecting on what it means to be Bella’s parent. We were sitting side by side on the couch when I could feel the weight she was carrying. She was being tough on herself. Her expectations were high, and she was frustrated because things had not gone the way she wanted. She felt like she had drifted a little off track, and that awareness brought irritation and disappointment with herself. As I listened, I was reminded of something she once said to me. Durin

As the sun goes down, I pause before my evening reflection. When the sun rises, it reminds me that a new day has been given. When it sets, it invites me to look back at how the day unfolded. The good moments. The hard moments. Family and friends. Health and sickness. All of it held together in a single day. Tonight, my reflection kept coming back to a conversation I had with Bella. She shared something that stopped me in my tracks. She said that when life is going well, perso

As I reflect today, my thoughts keep returning to the relationship between a parent and a child athlete. I have watched it unfold countless times at sporting events. Tension and frustration quietly stack day after day. A parent just trying to help. A child just wanting to play for fun. Somewhere in between, division begins to grow. What touches me most is realizing I did not see it in myself at first. That changed when Bella Love looked me in the eyes and said, Dad, I do not

As I reflect today, I think back on the travel, the laughter, the fun, and the memories made with Barbi and Bella this past week. I find myself smiling at the small moments and looking forward to creating even more. Whether it is staying up late laughing and telling funny stories, long car rides taking in beautiful scenery, or waking up early to share breakfast and quiet conversation, these are the moments that matter most. Family moments have a way of grounding us. They remi

Reflection After Team USA Trials As I reflect this morning, I think about how this Team USA Trials impacted Bella Love, Barbi, and me. There were so many elite performers here. So much intention and preparation. So many goals set. Some were achieved. Some were not. And that can hurt. The mind works best when it has something clear and close to aim at. When the target is defined, focus sharpens, energy increases, and progress feels real. Momentum builds. But sometimes, even wh

Day 5 | Final Day | Team USA Trials 2026 | Gold Coast The final day was exactly what high level competition often is… demanding, humbling, and revealing. The pattern was the toughest we saw all week, and it asked questions from the very first frame. There were moments of struggle early, moments where makeable spares slipped away, and stretches where every pin felt earned. There were also moments of steadiness… clean frames, patience, nines that kept things from unraveling, an

Day 5 Reflection. Learning Without Copying. Becoming More You. As I reflect this morning going into the last day of the tournament, Day 5, I think about the ups and downs that have come through the first four days. I also think about a thought I heard on a podcast recently around the idea of copying, and how that idea shows up so clearly in bowling. When I look around the lanes, I see men and women with completely different styles. Different rhythms. Different approaches. Dif

Day 5 | Team USA Trials | Las Vegas Day 5 was one of those days that asks you to slow everything down. Six games. One long block. Plenty of chances to rush, press, or let the moment get too loud. Instead, the goal stayed simple. Be where your feet are. Make the adjustment that’s in front of you. Let the rest take care of itself. The day opened with a steady start. The ball reaction was there, and Bella settled in early. There were moments where things lined up just right and

Day 4 Reflection: Abundance vs. Scarcity As we head into Day 4 of Team USA Trials, now over halfway through the tournament, I find myself reflecting on two very different mindsets that show up clearly in competition: scarcity and abundance. I was listening to a podcast recently that talked about how we handle opportunities and how that directly affects the way we compete. That idea has stayed with me as I’ve watched these first three days unfold. I think about Bella Love, abo

Day Three Presence Over Outcome Day three wrapped today, and it felt like one of those days that teaches you more than it gives you. Six games. A full block. A long emotional arc. She started the day searching. Not lost, just searching. The kind of searching where the ball is coming off her hand well, the pocket keeps showing up, and the pins just refuse to cooperate. Ten pins everywhere. Pocket shots that should strike and don’t. The kind of bowling that tests patience more

Day 3 Reflections: The Power of Presence As I reflect this morning, I’m reminded how important it is to simply be there for people. Not just when things are going well, but especially when they’re hard. As we head into Day 3, I’m watching how quickly situations can swing. There are moments when the ball is coming off the hand beautifully, hitting the pocket, and everything feels right. And then there are moments when the same shot doesn’t get the same result, the pins don’t f