The Learning Process

The Learning Process

This morning I reflect on the podcast I listened to and how much it focused on the idea of learning. We all talk about learning, but very few of us slow down enough to ask the simplest and most important question. What did I learn.

It is not complicated. It is awareness plus reflection. When I read something, walk through an experience, finish a task, or complete a conversation, I have to pause and ask. What did I learn from this moment. What stood out. What felt shiny. What felt dull. What needs more attention.

But the place where learning matters most for me is not in books or projects. It is in my home.

Every day I am learning how to be a better husband to Barbi. I learn from the way she loves me, the way she listens, the way she carries joy and quiet pain at the same time. I learn from the moments I get it right and from the moments I fall short. Before I go to bed I ask myself. What did I do well as her partner today. What can I do better. And how can I make it better tomorrow.

I ask the same questions about my parenting. Being a father to Bella Love is one of the greatest blessings of my life. She teaches me without trying to teach me. She shows me what light looks like. She shows me what forgiveness looks like. She shows me what patience and presence look like. And every night I ask myself. What did I learn from Bella today. What did I do well as her dad. What can I do better. And how can I make it better tomorrow.

Learning is the process of becoming. It is not a one time event. It is a daily practice of paying attention. What did I do well. What can I do better. How can I make it better.

And when I live by those questions, I grow.

As a man.

As a husband.

As a father.

As a human being.

That is the learning process. That is how I become better than I was yesterday.