Heart Posture and Family Alignment

Heart Posture and Family Alignment

When I think about family, I think about my heart, and the posture of that heart.

Growing up, teachers would tell us to sit up straight, shoulders back, and maintain good posture. But lately, I’ve been reflecting on what heart posture really means, not physically, but emotionally and spiritually.

When I’m away from my wife and daughter, I can feel my heart posture start to slouch a little. I miss them deeply. I call to check in, to hear their voices, to make sure they know they’re loved. That’s how I nurture our connection, with gentleness and intention.

Gentleness is not weakness. It’s a form of strength, a quiet discipline that keeps you steady and patient. It’s a kindness that requires self-control. It’s also how I try to stay aligned with my family, through focus, patience, and presence.

Barbi has always been my rock. I married up. She’s spoken so much life into me, been a beacon of light and accountability, especially when it came to faith in our early years. She helped me stay the course, grounded in church, family, and love.

And Bella, she’s watched me go through challenges and uncertainty, yet she always reminds me of truth: “All things work together for good for those who love God.” She reminds me that the path before me is perfect, I just have to trust and take the next step.

Even when people fade during hardships, even when life feels uncertain, I think about the heart posture of my wife and daughter, steady, kind, giving, full of light. Their love teaches me to rise up again, to realign my heart, and to pour that same love back into the world.

Because family isn’t just about who you have, it’s about how you love. It’s about your heart posture toward them, toward yourself, and toward God.